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CoolNcalm
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Joined: 2 Apr 2008
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# Posted: 11 Oct 2008 16:52
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There are times of course where we have to discipline our children, and yet it can be very stressful. I think that the hardest thing is separating the issue of discipline from the disappointment or anger that you may feel at the time.
How do you do it? Taking a step back? Cleaning up whatever problem and then dealing with discipline later in the day?
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JakeF
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# Posted: 11 Oct 2008 20:21
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I try and deal with the whole problem at the time it happens. Children are a lot like puppies, if you don't discipline them as soon as you find out what they did, then the time for effective behavior change is missed.
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Newbie Shield
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Joined: 11 Oct 2008
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# Posted: 16 Oct 2008 16:19
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Hi Cool,
That is a difficult issue to separate. My children are grown up now. When I used to use discipline, I also practiced self restraint so that I wasn't actually taking my anger out on them. The angrier I was, the more self restraint I had to use.
I realized the importance of this after I hit too hard the second time. I knew it was wrong right then and stopped overreacting. The same is true with pets. They are fragile and they really feel bad if you don't watch your tone and how hard you punish them. You have to be very careful, get a grip, and hold back.
It's the difference between necessary discipline and abuse. That realization also helps.
When children get older, you can reason with them more by asking them questions and having them put themselves in the shoes of others so they can really understand why they should be avoiding certain behaviors or abstain from destructive actions in the environment.
I hope that helps a little :)
~Newbie Shield~
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