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EvanjalineRose
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#1 · Posted: 4 Aug 2011 14:03
I'm turning 24 at the end of the month. I'm still living at home. I'm unemployed but looking, I've been in school on and off for years but I'm only halfway done earning a degree. I have no boyfriend, no friends, no car, I never go out, I just sit at home all day staring at the computer, sometimes feeling pretty good, sometimes just on the verge of breaking down crying. I feel like my life is going nowhere. Recently my younger sister has been through some emotional and behavioral issues, and dealing with that has left me worse than ever because the cost of her treatment has pretty much eliminated the possibility I will ever get a car from my parents. So if I ever find a job, I'll have to put a car as my first priority, when I'd really like to put getting out of here as my first.
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Sara
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#2 · Posted: 5 Aug 2011 08:34
When you lump all these problems together, it seems that there is no way out. But break them into different areas and it doesn't look so bad. First of all I suggest that you write in a journal or exercise book exactly what you do want to achieve. This will help to focus your mind. Think about doing some voluntary work maybe in a hospital or charity shop. Or do an adult aducation class in a subject that you are interested in or are passionate about. This way you will meet people and make friends and maybe meet a boyfriend. When you feel more positive about yourself you will do better in job interviews. When you have a job you will be able to get a car and then maybe leave home, but at least you will have the car and a job and you won't be stuck in doors all the time. I suggest you DO SOMETHING and then you will feel in control. Good Luck.
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razer99
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#3 · Posted: 19 Aug 2011 17:15
It's always tough when the world seems to be against us. Though I've felt overwhelmed myself at times, I agree with Sara. Taking it a step at a time and focusing on one thing at a time has tremendous power in how to control things in our life. If you can't control what's there and you realize it then don't stress out.
I bet you've also had some amazing accomplishments in life, and that there were moments where you were able to take absolutely control without feeling lost.
I like that you know your first step is to find a job, and that in itself can be a lot of work, but very rewarding. And as long as you know you're making progress, and you recognize it, you'll feel more at ease. To me it's important that you recognize all the steps you've done. Positive reinforcement plays a huge role.
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mulkurnia
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#4 · Posted: 17 Sep 2011 06:09
Do not let your negativity overwhelm you. There is always a bright side to any event no matter how negative it is, if you are willing to. If you feel like your life is going nowhere, try to do something about it. Fight against the tendency to do nothing and inertia. Be grateful for the positive things in your life. It is normal for a human mind to find faults. Fight this tendency and instill positivity instead.
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