sangst
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# Posted: 11 Apr 2009 20:22
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I joined this forum to hopefully meet people that are like me and hopefully that I would be understood....
I recently left the military and had to move to a different state because I couldn't find a job there. Problem is, I own a house there and the cost of living where I am now is a lot lower so the mortgage payment is huge! I have to go to school full time to be able to get money from a military college fund to be able to pay the bills and my work is an hour and a half away from where I am living right now, (which is my mothers house). My husband can't find a job because of the awful economy and my kids (4 & 1) completely drain me. So basically I have a ridiculously full plate and have the weight of the world on my shoulders right now.
I can barely sleep, my libido is non existent, I cry at every little issue and I never want to eat and when I do eat, it is usually something full of sugar. I just want to scream all the time and constantly try to keep all the anger I feel inside.
I apologize for off loading but I need help, and I need it now. I have finally hit a brick wall and dont know what to do......
Any advice would be appreciated........ am I going crazy? Because it certainly feels that way.
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Elizabeth
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# Posted: 18 Apr 2009 15:43
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Hi sangst,
You are not crazy. It sounds like you have a lot on your plate and when we have a lot on our plate we can become overwhelmed. My first question is, have you seen your Private Medical Doctor? The reason I ask this is because often times when we have symptoms like inability to sleep, poor libido, and crying, we should see our medical doctor and have a physical. Something may be going on with you physically and medication may help and ease your burden.
My next suggestion would be to write down exactly what you would like to happen. Your hopes and dreams. Basically your goals. This helps us know which way we are moving in life. Chances are you are moving towards your goals and this can still be stressful. But, the great part is, you are moving forward. This is reassuring. If you are not moving forward, set some tasks to do that.
And finally, check your self care behavior. It takes energy to handle stress and in order to increase our energy we must take care of ourselves. Eat right, exercise, get plenty of rest, and eliminate habits that will drain us. If you are burned out, which indicates severe exhaustion, then that may be why you have no libido, you cry, and you eat sugar (which gives us an instant energy booster).
Hang in there kiddo, you will do great, we always do. No matter what happens you will get through it, we always do.
One last suggestion, meditation and deep relaxation before you retire in the evening helps with sleep. Try it for at least a month, to really be good at it, and sleep will come.
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crystal
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# Posted: 4 Jun 2009 03:35
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Well, we can't avoid problems like this in our lives. Even if you are in the face of stress and a lot of troubles, you can still find some advantages of having that experience. Problems let you discover some solutions in your future problems. For example, right now you don't know what to do in your situation because it's your first time but that situation gives you realization. Your instinct is to look for an answer way out from your problem. Even the effect of it makes you feel numb, but as you encounter it again in the future, you are already on how to deal with it since you already experienced it. You learn more as by having much experience in your life.
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