blocksta
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#1 · Posted: 10 Aug 2010 03:52
hi,
i've just joined this forum as I don't really know where to turn and could do with some advice.
My wife is currently very stressed which is being caused by her job being very stressful and generally not being happy in what she is doing. She works for an association and has recently been working on a project which has meant 12 hour days including weekends (i've had to help). In addition she doesn't even like her job so to have to force herself to do all this work for something she doesn't like really gets to her. I set up my own business last year so this has added to the stress plus she is approaching 30 and doesn't feel like she has done anything with her life. Its been building up and up. Yesterday She was delayed on the train, felt like she was having a panic attack, came home and was a mess, if we had a punchbag she would have beaten it up. We'd booked a last minute holiday during the day however when she got home she said she didn't want to go as she felt pressured into doing it as was too busy at work to stop and check it out, doesn't feel like she can take time off and this morning wanted to break things again.
I don't know what to do anymore, I'm trying to be calm and supportive as I know what I'm feeling is nothing compared to her however I'm at my wits end as I'm getting angry and losing patience. I think she should see a doctor but she refuses to as she is "too busy". To top it off her now deceased aunt had mental issues so she believes she is going the same way.
I love my wife so much and writing this is making me cry as I feel so helpless. She is such a fun person and always makes me smile, every day, no matter how I feel so to see her like this breaks my heart.
I just need to know if there is anything I can or should be doing, if there are other sites or people I/we can be talking to.
Any help or reassurance will be greatly appreciated.
Thanks
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Vishal
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#2 · Posted: 11 Aug 2010 02:01
Hi there! Is she working out of financial constraints? Can you both live comfortably without her doing the job? If yes, then I suggest you take a short break and reassess what's important in your life. Money is not the only thing in life. Yes, it's required for a comfortable living but after a certain stage, the power it gives you to enhance your living, only makes you crave for more. It's just like getting addicted to sweets.
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