unkfuture
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#1 · Posted: 20 Nov 2011 19:46
I'm on the verge of a nervous breakdown.
I'm a 20 year old female college student. I'm currently finishing up my last semester at community college and am transferring to a new school in January. I'm freaking out because my stress levels are at the maximum, I feel like I will be having a mental breakdown any day now and I can't afford that to happen.
Let me get to the meat and potatoes of it all:
- I owed nearly $3000 to my school because they screwed up my financial aid. Now it's fixed but it took so long that they put a hold on my account and I missed the drop deadline for 2 of my classes that I need to drop. Which brings me to the next point...
- Before this semester began I had a 3.6 GPA, I got into the school I'm transferring to with a scholarship. Everyone told me I was overwhelming myself this semester - work, school, internship, volunteering - but I didn't listen so my grades this semester reflect that. I am failing 3 of the 4 classes I'm taking. Semester ends in about 3 weeks but I couldn't drop the classes, thanks to the financial aid ordeal, and now I'm screwed. If I fail those classes I have to pay the financial aid money back to the government - money I don't have and have absolutely no way of getting. Also, if I fail, my GPA will drop enormously and put me at risk of losing my acceptance to the transfer school.
- My family moved 3 hours away at the beginning of the semester. They make me feel semi-guilty if I don't visit them at least every other week. Because I've been driving back and forth, I'm wearing my car down (I still have 3 years of car payments on it and if it breaks, I'm in the hole all that money) I've also been missing appointments because of the traveling back and forth.
- The career I'm trying to get into after college requires me to get a security clearance, I've been having a lot of doubts of my ability to get this clearance due to some stuff that happened in high school (nothing super, super bad...skipped class, bad grades, marijuana usage) and I've heard mixed things from different recruiters. Some tell me its fine because I've shown 5+ years of improvement, others are telling me I can't be hired...and it has been getting me more and more depressed. There's nothing I want to do more than the career path I've chosen and if I can't reach the position I want, I don't know what else I'll do for a living...
Overall, I'm beyond stressed out thanks to all these things. I've considered everything from dropping out of school and getting a full-time job to moving states away by myself and starting over. I'm literally losing my mind, I see that I've gone from being a great student, hard-worker, etc to walking on hell's boundaries.
Please help...
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LaughsHeal
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#3 · Posted: 16 Jan 2012 06:21
I have to agree with Vishal's good advice as it will pass, it just takes time and patience, but things will get better.
During this time, I would also suggest exploring your capacities to set guidelines because if you set a method of what is acceptable behavior and what is not, then not even your family will be able to "make you feel guilty".
By revisiting your personal power to make choices that will positively influence your life, you will have a much easier time dealing with this type of stress while waiting for the storm to pass.
I wish you much success!
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