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kyyria_6
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Joined: 11 May 2011
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#1 · Posted: 11 May 2011 09:28
Hi all,
I'm just looking for a bit of advice.
I've been having issues at work with my manager; defaulting on his own job so I pick up the pieces, disappearing off during the day for extended lunch breaks etc.
It got to the point where I just could not do any more and after months of nausea, insomnia and anxiety I ended up having a panic attack at work (mid-February). I've since started suffering with palpitations. I was signed off work for 11 weeks and have just returned on phased return/reduced hours this week.
I'm not keen on going back but we currently have a management consultancy in looking at how the place is run - despite how I feel the organisation itself in't bad and when things are good I do love my job, but I feel that I owe it to them to give them a chance to turn things around before I jump ship.
My main question is this - how long does it take to get over the feeling of being shattered, and in particular the fuzzy, non-working brain??
I'm currently in year 1 of a 3 year leadership and management degree. Work offered to pay on the understanding I gave them a guarantee that I would stay with them (this was August...). I'm enjoying the course but at the moment I am really struggling with coursework. I have been sitting at the laptop for days on end, wanting to get stuck in and write stuff, but I just cannot get my brain in to gear.
Has anyone else been in a similar situation and how did you get through it?
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Fretsaw
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#2 · Posted: 24 Oct 2011 07:08
Hello kyrria 6,
No one else has replied to your message since May, so I thought I would. I was stuck in a job some years back where I was picking up the pieces left by others and know what your situation is like. It will take some time to get over the feeling of being shattered - weeks or months possibly, but it depends on the individual.
I got out of this predicament by becoming self-employed, although it did mean 16-hour days for several months (8 for the old boss, then home to 8 for me - the new boss), which was exhausting.
If you feel you are getting something out of the job (your degree for example), then by all means stick with it, but if the pain and suffering is too much - move on. Companies are inanimate objects - they don't necessarily care about your well-being.
Fretsaw
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CherylParis
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#3 · Posted: 27 Oct 2011 07:12
kyyria_6
I really can understand where you are coming from here. You obviously what to do a good job for the employer disspite your relationship with your manager.
I believe the first thing is to give yourself permission to accept the situation for what it is. And I mean accept it because this will put you the the best place emtionally to contniue to move forward.
Askyouself ," Whay do Ireally want from this job that I am totally in control of?".
Then look at taking control of one small aspect of your life at a time, e.g. how you are managing your time? Are you focusing on important things? This may sound obvious but by taking control of a small area and having success in that ,you will then gain more confidence to deal with the larger challenges.
Hope that is helpful.
Bye for now
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Jennifer
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#4 · Posted: 30 Oct 2011 11:55
Such wonderful advice, Cheryl. Acceptance of what is and letting go of wanting to change what you cannot definitely help reduce stress. Plus, it's a good starting point for taking effective action.
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doclind
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#5 · Posted: 8 Nov 2011 00:34
The thing I like to in times of stress is to define the current reality first. This means to objectively decide what you're dealing with.
Once you have a grasp of the particular problems you are dealing with you are better able to move to the second step which is to create a reality that you would like best to happen.
This process is very helpful in getting through times of stress in your life.
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