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mithun99
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#1 · Posted: 20 Oct 2008 00:21
Sometimes there are times that come in our lives where how much ever we try to come out of irritation and stressful situation, nothing works. What to do at such times?? saying to be calm, concentrate on breath, count till ten etc does not work with me. Is there any solution?
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#2 · Posted: 20 Oct 2008 01:06
Let it be! No situation will last forever. Nothing is permanent. What comes up, has to go down and what goes down, has to come up  Just try not to get attached to the situation and stay detached. The more you get attached to a situation, the more it'll trouble you.
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#3 · Posted: 23 Oct 2008 02:29 · Edited by: mithun99
I know, have tried that many times. Have succeeded too. But its not easy. My emotions get over me backed by the ego. I guess mediation is the only answer. Thanks anyways!
Tell me how do you stay detached to the situation?? When you know your best friend is getting wild on you for no reason, and is always late for meetings etc . If I get detached from the situation I don't feel the closeness that I share in the relation. Feel something is missing. What to do?
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#4 · Posted: 24 Oct 2008 06:35
Quoting: mithun99 If I get detached from the situation I don't feel the closeness that I share in the relation. Feel something is missing. What to do?
What you feel is not closeness but attachment. Real love does not mean attachment. By getting attached to something, you tend to have a control over it. It's not a pleasant thing to be in. Love liberates, attachment binds. Love empowers, attachment cripples.
I know it's easier said than done but you have to realize that everyone is free and unique inside. Relations, concepts, etc. are products of ego. Unless you realize this deeply, you cannot love anybody truly.
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#5 · Posted: 26 Oct 2008 09:03 · Edited by: mithun99
Hard to follow it though. I guess practice makes a man perfect. Thanks
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#6 · Posted: 22 Mar 2009 02:52
Hi mithun99!
I feel Vishal has done a fabulous job as far as your problem is concerned. My submission is - we should always give some TIME and SPACE to others and ourselves, as well. whenever we are not happy with any body's act or behaviour, we should try first to feel the same by putting ourselves in the similar situation.
It is not the matter to be detached from the person but from the situation only for short span and that should not create any insecure feeling in you becoz; you are equally concern to your friend at that moment of time too.
When you know your friend got wild for NO REASON, then what is the problem? It happens at times, may be with you too. better not to get affected very soon and not to stretch it for longer.
As a matter of fact, we need to understand what is LOVE, CONCERN, and POSSESSION and how closely we relate all.
THE MOST IMPORTANT FACTOR FOR ANY RELATIONSHIP IS -
"UNDERSTANDING", that covers all.
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#7 · Posted: 23 Mar 2009 11:28
I strongly believe in Practise make perfect.
Stick to one type of way to reduce stress and practise consistently.
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#8 · Posted: 7 Apr 2009 17:46
When none of the general strategies work, I would suggest seeing a doctor.
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#9 · Posted: 21 May 2009 12:33
Much stress comes from trying to change other people and things outside ourselves.
If we can learn to accept people just the way they are, we will be less stressed.
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#10 · Posted: 26 May 2009 17:51
Just keep looking. There isn't a one-solution-fits-all approach so you'll have to find something that works for you. Try talking with your friends or seeing a doctor to see if they can come up with something you haven't considered.
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#11 · Posted: 8 Jul 2011 23:48
I think this forum is great and the fact we can all pour this stuff out on eachother is great, Even if nobody cares its still good to let it out. I have good days and bad days my friend. I find that time to myself is about as good as it gets for me. I enjoy hanging at the beach and enjoying the beautiful view and fresh air. This does help, But not me or anybody else can do this all the time,.
But sometimes a new city, change of scenery, or just time away from where uve been forever can be good for you to relax and relieve that tension. good luck man if u need any personal convo or anything email me @ vauf @ y m a i l . c o m
There are no spaces i just dont want this flagged on google and spammed. thanks
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#12 · Posted: 13 Sep 2011 05:31
Vishal
Attachment does not necessarily mean control - there are different levels of attachment - control is of the mind and not of the soul or of the heart. Attachment is about connection - its a constructive thing not a negative one.
All comes from attachment -connection
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#13 · Posted: 13 Sep 2011 10:18
I suggest to try as many different things as possible. It is very likely that you will find one or two activities that will take your mind off from daily problems. This will lead to stress reduction. I would start with positive thinking – practice different positive thinking techniques together with stress relief and relaxation techniques.
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#14 · Posted: 14 Sep 2011 01:23 · Edited by: Vishal
CBT: Attachment is about connection - its a constructive thing not a negative one.
Depends on how you construe attachment. Attachment to a situation/thing/person/body/outer world comes only from the mind and it can hardly be constructive (to the spiritual aspirant). Attachment to the divine comes from the soul. And it can flourish only when the outer attachment drops.
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